Resources for Parents

Note: There are many downloadable activities and resources specific for Teens on the Resources for Teens page.

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The greatest gifts you can give your teen are:

YOUR TIME

YOUR PRESENCE

YOUR LOVE


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5 Tips to Build a Mindful Relationship with Your Teen

1  Communication: Listen to your teen! Truly pay attention to what they are saying without thinking of what to say back. Speak from your heart. Reflect back to them what you heard so they know you were listening. Try not to judge them. Don’t ask why questions. You will most often get defensive responses.

2  Support and Encouragement: Teens often put a lot of pressure on themselves. Try your best to encourage but not add to the pressure they experience. Support them emotionally as well as financially.

3 Awareness: Look for the red flags to look for that your teen is suffering. Red Flags: changes in eating, sleeping, time spent with you and/ or reduced enjoyment in previously favored activities.

4 Love: Even in the hardest of moments with your teen remember to let your teen know how much you love them. EVERY DAY! Love them enough to set boundaries when you need to be a parent and not a friend.

5 Presence: Be there in their life. Spend time with them. Provide them with face-time in addition to screen-time.


Your Self-Care

We can’t be a service to anyone else if we can’t be a service to ourselves. As professionals/parents, we have the ability to model for teens that caring for yourself is NOT being selfish. Not only is it important for professionals to each teens the importance of self-care, but it is equally important for professionals to actively engage in self-care practices.

Research demonstrates that the stress inherent in the helping professions may have deleterious consequences including:

  • Depression
  • Interpersonal Difficulties
  • Anxiety
  • Burnout
  • Vicarious Traumatization

Click on the image to your right to read an interview on Tools for Self Care and Peace of Mind >>>>>>>>


Take Time for Yourself

Download a Chapter from the new book Be Mindful & Stress Less: 50 Ways to Deal with Your Crazy Life to learn ways you can give the gift of presence to others and yourself.

Take a break for yourself. Take a coffee or tea break. Remain mindful as you make and drink your beverage.  Another way you can practice mindfulness throughout the day is to do mindful stretching for 5 minutes. If not stretching, try any mindful movement you want or are potentially skilled in doing. After your mindful movement, consider:

How do you feel now?

What are you thinking?

Download a free Mindfulness at Work Audio Practice


Look for Teen Red Flags

•      Changes in eating

•      Changes in sleeping

•      Loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed

•      Staying in their room and isolating more than they did before

•      Changes in how they communicate with you

•      Changes in mood—sadness, crying, depressed, anxious, irritable, angry, and frustrated more often than not

•      Increased isolation


The Acting Out Teen

This teen often has problems with their grades, teachers, parents, and often externalizes their problems while acting out and engaging in risk-seeking/taking behaviors:

•       This teen usually acts like nothing matters when you take all of their things away

•       They tend to cut on their arm so people can see

•       They will yell, argue, fight, and might run away if they don’t get their way

•       Often poor at emotion-regulation, insight, and awareness how their actions impact others

•       Often unskilled at communicating their feelings and is unclear at what is really bothering them

•       The teen might present as very dramatic and depressed

•       Often hangs out with the wrong crowd of people


The Teen Suffering in Silence                                               

•       This teen is harder to see and often goes unnoticed

•       Participates in many activities, has good grades, often has a job and never gets into trouble

•       Difficulties often go unnoticed

•       These teens often present with anxiety, psychosomatic complaints, internalization, cutting, feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, overwhelm, decreased self-esteem, and feel they are never good enough

Many of these are depression symptoms


I NEED IMMEDIATE HELP WITH A TEEN

If you know someone whom is in danger--being harmed by another person, harming themselves, or at risk for harming someone else please contact 911. Below is a list of resources you can call for additional information:

National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433) or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Both toll-free, 24-hour, confidential hotlines which connect you to a trained counselor at the nearest suicide crisis center.

Suicide Prevention Lifeline
The Web site for this 24-hour, confidential hotline offers details about how to call if you need help, how to identify suicide warning signs, and information for veterans experiencing mental distress.

Additional Hotlines and Websites for Teens from PBS

Download a Resource List