This weeks Love Letter 2 Parents Welcoming the New Year with Courage and Self-Compassion Happy New Year! Bringing in a New Year means saying goodbye to old and welcoming the new. During the winter break, our families took the opportunity to step outside the comfort of the familiar- one traveled to a new city, the other back to a place that was once home. Both needed courage- courage to try something new and unknown and courage to face a new reality. The beauty (and fortune) of both was that our journeys and challenges weren’t faced alone. We each shared our experiences with loved ones by our side.
“Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.” L.R. Knost
In asking, do we really want to know or do we take the time to find out how someone really is? Do we avoid asking someone how they are or dread being asked? If so, why? Do we not want to know or does listening take us off our path? Perhaps we don’t want anyone asking us how we are, so we don’t ask others. Maybe we don’t ask because we don’t have (or can’t make) time to really find out. Perhaps, we don’t feel we have the time to deal with our emotions when asked or doing the asking. Maybe, we’re keeping busy to cope and answering honestly would mean stopping in our tracks or having to feel and think beyond or deeper than our “to do” list.
This weeks Love Letter 2 Parents Rolling with the "Unplanned" Holiday Time
If we’re honest with ourselves, the beloved and highly anticipated holiday season can be overwhelming, if we let it. When an unfortunate roadblock presents itself, especially when we don’t feel we have the time to diverge from our planned path, how do we handle it?
This weeks Love Letter 2 Parents In Difficult Times Our True Character is Revealed
Boy, we are exhausted and feeling pulled in so many directions. Many of the directions are beautiful and fulfilling and many are emotionally draining and physically taxing. We decided to take a deep breath, appreciate the blue sky, and take time to be grateful.
This Weeks Love Letter 2 Parents: Learn from Struggle or Failure, You First Need to Struggle or Fail
We overheard a high schooler reminiscing about her middle school days and offering great advice to her younger self: Make sure to relax, don’t stress so much, enjoy your friends, and take in the opportunity to learn about yourself while learning new subjects. Figure out ways to take it all in, while not overwhelming yourself with perfection. Focus on doing the best you can, while learning how (and not forgetting) to care for yourself and others.
This Weeks Love Letter 2 Parents Parenting by the Seat of Our Pants
Parenting teens in today’s world is very much a “learn by doing” (or by the seat of our pants!) experience. As we approach the time of year for giving and receiving, we started wondering about the things we give to our children and families. After all the publicity for Black Friday, Cyber Monday and Giving Tuesday and the push to buy and give, we paused to reconsider what are absolute needs. We reminded ourselves of the difference between giving others “presence” and “presents,” recalling how fun it was to have “game nights” and “movie nights” (and how much easier they were to plan!) when they were little.
This weeks extra Love Letter 2 Parents Creating Stillness in the Chaos
Tryouts for winter sports means relief and excitement for some and heartbreak and disappointment for others. Upcoming finals usually means stress, and we know it comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. Freshmen may be feeling this kind of stress for the first time and may not understand it or know what to do. Whatever they are feeling or however they are manifesting stress, it is common for kids to feel like it is them (a character flaw rather than a compound set of issues). They may see it as their issue and theirs alone rather than a common set of feelings shared/felt/experienced by many and intensified at this time and under these circumstances (tryouts, grades, time change, college applications, etc.).
This weeks Love Letter 2 Parents Wisdom From Our Past
Wooden’s words are simple, profound, and apply to us all. Teens often feel they do not have much control. They also may not know how to handle situations when they actually have control. These days, they likely do not realize how much influence social media use has on their thoughts and feelings and that they have the capacity to exert more control over its influence. Whether they’re a star on the athletic team or a student sitting in the back of the room, not wanting to be seen, Wooden’s words may be hard for a teen to grasp. Yet, it feels like an important idea to help them understand for it could add significant value to their lives. (As a parent, how often do you recite the serenity prayer?)
Thanksgiving Love Letter 2 Parents Thank you!Gracias!
The simple phrase has such an impact. It’s easy to say, feels good to hear and can immediately transform one’s mood. Saying it recognizes the other’s efforts, another’s intention or gesture, and what’s in their heart. The praise acknowledges appreciation and connection to another.